Tonight we had a great bridal consultation and on the way home Kathie and I were discussing how much we’re looking forward to potentially photographing this wedding. As we talked more I started to think about this word fiancé that we use for people when they get engaged. What do you guys think about this word?
Personally I (Jeremiah) am not a huge fan of the name – fiancé. I prefer when people just say they’re engaged. Or at least I’d like to see someone come up with another name. (Suggestions anyone?) We have boyfriend/girlfriend before we’re engaged, and husband/wife once we’re married. So why the gender neutral fiancé for that time in between?
The ambiguity sits well with me not.
This piqued my curiosity enough to do a quick Google search on the word. As it turns out, the English language technically does have gender specific terms. A fiancée is a woman to be married and a fiancé is a man to be married. However, they are pronounced the same and it’s not like anyone knows better to spell them differently. So instead couples just end up stuck in this odd time period where they call each other the same thing.
Is it just me or is this a weird to anyone else?
Maybe it is just me. Regardless, it sure feels better to have gotten that of my chest. I think I’ll sleep better tonight.
by Colling Photography
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